Stop Playing ‘Victim’

All too often, I see people continue to blame their problems on the world or another external factor. Some of them even have the audacity to think that the world owes them something after the world comes crumbling down on them.

Well, let me be the first to tell you, and hopefully I’m not the first to tell you, that the world owes you nothing. You make or break under your own willpower. Instead of incessantly complaining, “Why me?”, you should be asking yourself, “What can I do to make this situation better? To pick myself up off the ground?”

Those who complain are the ones who keep playing “victim.”  Because they feel uncomfortable with their own anger, they become trapped in a victimized orientation toward life. People who become mired down in feeling victimized tend to view events in their lives as happening to them and feel ineffective and overwhelmed. They also operate on the basic assumption that the world should be fair, which is a child’s way of thinking.

There have been several times in my life where I could’ve just sat there, angry at the world for what it had done to me, given me, and left me in a position leaving me to feel vulnerable. And I’ll admit that there have been a couple times where I’m guilty of doing this.

But if I hadn’t picked myself up off the ground after situations where life had dealt me a bad hand, I definitely wouldn’t be where I am today, nor would I be the person I am today.

One of my favorite lyrics is from Shinedown’s “Sound of Madness,” and it goes, “I created the sound of madness / Wrote the book on pain / Somehow I’m still here to explain / That the darkest hour never comes in the night / You can sleep with a gun / When you gonna wake up and fight?” I feel that the song really resonates with me because I know the whole “I’ve been there” mentality, but I will never understand other peoples’ situations no matter how hard I try to put myself in their shoes.

Nothing will ever be right and life will never be perfect. But if you want to live what you would consider a “perfect life,” it’ll never be easy.

I realize that there are some individuals that feel that nobody understands their situation and that they have no hope. Let me tell you, there is always hope, but it’s up to the individual to find the determination to seek their own definition of a “perfect life.”

Stay strong and never, ever give up.


First off, I want to extend a massive congratulations to the city of Philadelphia and the Eagles organization on winning their first Lombardi trophy Sunday night. It was a long time coming, but they finally were able to take home their first Super Bowl win since… well, before the Super Bowl even existed.

Nobody can argue that both offenses did a miraculous job last night, making for historical numbers in combined total yardage. However, it all came down to who could torch the opposing defense, especially on third down where it all mattered.

The Eagles offense ran their RPO offense like I had never seen before. They were stellar. Whenever faced with a third down, they continued to come up big. Donnie Jones only had to punt once.

On the other side, the Patriots offense was running like they had all season. The big plays happened but it just wasn’t enough. In the end, the offensive line got tired and overwhelmed by the pass rush which caused Tom Brady to lose a fumble on an attempt to throw.

The better team won. What else is there to say?

But what does this mean for the Patriots now? They made so many big moves in the offseason and only some actually paid off. The addition of Brandin Cooks was by far one of the greatest transactions they could’ve made for the franchise. A deep threat receiver who made it a nightmare for defensive backs to cover. Losing him impacted the team’s performance significantly Sunday night.

And I will never understand why Malcolm Butler didn’t start on defense. Whatever the coaching decision was there, I feel that they’ll be reflecting on that for a long time. One thing that is for certain, you will never see him play another down for the Patriots ever again.

As for Tom Brady, he’ll have to wait for his next shot at history-making until next season. People can’t continue to argue that he isn’t the greatest quarterback to ever play the game of football. He’s already proven that. He didn’t choke last night; he put up some of the best numbers by a losing quarterback in a Super Bowl. The postseason is where he shines the most, but his performance was not a determining factor in the final decision Sunday night.

I’m happy to see an organization like Philadelphia, who’s waited practically a lifetime to see their beloved team win their first significant championship since the AFL-NFL merger. That’s my sports-fan persona talking.

As for my diehard-Patriots-fan persona, I know this isn’t the end. Far from it. Knowing how much the organization has built up since the dawn of the millennium and how much they’ve already accomplished, everybody knows that they’ll be back and with a vengeance. A loss like this on such a grand stage will loom over Tom Brady’s head and the entire franchise like a storm cloud. The coaches and players will be picking apart every little thing in order to get back to the same place they were this season.

Every team needs improving, including the “evil empire” that is the New England Patriots.

Ever since the postseason began, the Patriots started a social media the social media hashtag “#NotDone” to show that there’s still more on their plate and that there’s a job that still needs to be done. I didn’t think that this was the right one to use. If you’re a team in the NFL, the goal isn’t to win just one championship; it’s to win several and to cement your legacy as one of the stoic franchises that football has ever seen. While the Patriots have already done this, their job is far from over.

They might be down and out right now, but the Patriots are #NeverDone.

We’ll be back…